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Why Everyone Should Worry Less

Annemaire Postma's book The Secret Within on Wellness and Relaxation
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Some people worry more than others and sometimes with good reason. There are those times though when you worry because you're absolutely certain that there is something you should be worrying about but you can't for the life of you think what it is. It's just a nagging feeling that lurks underneath.
Other times you know full well what's troubling you. Personally, at (almost) 32 and unwed, I worry that I'm fast approaching an age were the option of getting married in a dress no longer exists. I don't want to walk down the aisle in an age appropriate cream trouser suit.
In a similar vein, I worry that if I leave it too much longer to have babies, I run the risk of being known as the neighbourhood's answer to Rod Stewart. Minus the mullet.
I worry when I leave the house in a morning that I've left my hair straighteners on, stopping in my tracks and trying to remember. (I always check and always have. The time I don't will be the time that I haven't. I bloody knew it, I'll think as I get the phone call explaining that the fire they ignited has ripped through our house, spread to next door and engulfed the whole street in flames).
At other times, I'll think back over conversations I've had and worry that I might have said something offensive or been taken the wrong way. When it comes to work, I worry if there's something I've forgotten to do. What if a royal roasting lies ahead? 
You get the picture. There's a million thoughts milling about my head throughout the day, like most other people. 
Why Do We Worry So Much?
It's natural to fear the unknown. We have no way of knowing what the future brings and so much in our lives that we're afraid of loosing.
"So much of what we worry about has to do with losing what we have: health, happiness, love, wealth, power, status, wisdom, freedom...Either through making some mistaken choice or via the vagaries of fate." Source  

If I spend my time worrying about all possible eventualities surely I'm better prepared in some way.

The older we get the more life experiences and responsibilities we have. It's no surprise then that the amount of worrying we do increases also. Apparently people tend to worry the most during their mid-life.
Now if you're anything like me you'll be reading this fact, suddenly thinking, grrrrreat, things are about to get a whole lot worse! Well, there can be a happy ending. I promise!
The Good News ... and you can thank me later
"When I look back on all these worries I remember the story of the old man who said on his deathbed that he had had a lot of trouble in his life, most of which never happened," Winston Churchill Source 
Most of the worries that take up so much of your daily thoughts will never happen! How many people do you know who have accidentally burnt down their street or worse...got married in a trouser suit?

Our heads are cluttered with unnecessary and draining worry.

In a 2013 study, hundreds of elderly people were asked what their biggest regret was if they looked back over their lives. The most common answer ...

"I wish I hadn't spent so much of my life worrying." Source

From Now On

The one thing that will definitely slip away from us is time. Do you really want to waste most of yours worrying about things that will probably never happen?

It's not easy to just switch your mind off. You can't just wake up one morning and be free of all anxieties. You can wake up though and decide that you are going to start a change in the way you think. Plan for the future but don't waste time worrying about it.

Notice when your thoughts are spiralling out of control and have a quiet word with yourself when you are mid way through an imaginary disaster zone... That is never going to happen stop wasting time thinking about it!

Disclaimer: I hold no responsibility for any disasters that may occur for any readers of this post, who have as a consequence failed to worry in advance over every minute detail.
Thanks so much for taking the time to read this. Was it a bit deep for a Monday? Oops, there I go again! Sod it, this is your post crack on with it!

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