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Deactivating Facebook: 4 Months Later

Four months ago I quit Facebook. I felt more and more that I was wasting time trawling through my newsfeed, so I went cold turkey and deactivated my account. I turned my back on social media in search of a blissful privacy that seems hard to find in these technology driven days.
What did I do next? Naturally, I announced it on my blog. Just a slight touch of hypocrisy, but that's by the by.
You can read my post on quitting Facebook here for more on why I decided to deactivate.
Desk with Facebook Log In Page open on Ipad

How did the world respond to my departure (when 'world' means my 190 Facebook friends)?

When you deactivate your account you run the risk of people assuming one of the following:

It's a sure sign that a breakdown is imminent. She was one click away from being certified insane.

Speculation is rife that your in a controlling relationship. Access to all male contact has been dramatically and necessarily cut off. She was 'poking' left right and centre.

The sudden departure is seen as attention seeking behaviour. If you decide to deactivate, you can't go back on again a week later. Definitely not if you decide to leave with a dramatic teary eyed parting status:
"It is with deep sadness and regret that you won't be seeing much of me on here from now on. I have made the difficult decision to spend more time on Twitter. Thanks for the memories Mark Suckerberg" ...then upload a Youtube link to Time To Say Goodbye.
Is it just me, or is that starting to seem like shit hot way of closing down your account? Bugger, is it too late to go back on and do that?

Or of course there's the most likely reaction. If you go quietly, people probably won't notice.

After my departure I received a text from only one friend. She was checking to see if I had come off Facebook or if I was phasing her out! I definitely wasn't phasing her out, fortunately! Way to avoid an awkward text!

Life without Facebook...

*I forget people's birthdays, unless I knew you before Facebook and have the date stored firmly in my memory.

*Banter has taken a hit because I miss out on group emails. (God I hate the word Banter)

*I make life that bit more awkward when people are trying to arrange hen dos. I have to be contacted personally in order to receive an invite. If it ain't delivered by a white winged dove then I'm not coming.

*I have no way of spying on what my boyfriend is doing when he's away on a lads trip. Current problem!! Are the girls in Singapore hot?

*I no longer know what profile picture my boyfriends ex-girlfriend has! Is she looking hot?

*I can't vet any group photo's that include me. I don't know what might be on there. Am I looking hot?

*I had no idea that a very very old classmate has had a baby that is the spitting image of Liam Neeson, until a friend showed me. He is actually his double, no word of a lie! Of course he's beautiful, as all babies are etc etc.

*I have forgotten that some people exist now that I'm not reading about them in my newsfeed everyday.

*I've stopped having random dreams about the last person who popped up on my newsfeed before bed.

*I missed out on 'liking' photos of friends sharing exciting parts of their lives. Weddings, new homes and holidays.

On the whole I can't say I've missed having Facebook. I used to check it about ten times everyday, so it's come as a surprise how little I do actually miss it.

To be fair I have replaced it with stalking bloggers on Twitter and Instagram. Having another reason to stare at my Iphone has helped the process. *Note to self: Do not get depressed because your not at London Fashion Week.*
Yes I  know I don't blog about fashion, and yes I know I only have just over 100 Twitter followers. But still, an invite would've been nice, and yes, delivered by a white winged dove. There's always next year!

Maybe I will reactivate my account at some point, although I'd limit my friends list to actual friends. Nobody likes a gal whose forgotten their birthday!!

Are you addicted to checking your Facebook? Could you imagine life without it?

Thanks so much for reading. Don't forget to say Beunos Dias on Twitter here! x x

Burnt Apple Muffins: The Tweets That Never Made It To Twitter

As seen on social media: Just busy being a domestic goddess, trying out more sugar free recipes. Bring on week two of my healthy regime. Feeling determined!
Ingredients for baking sugar free apple muffins

Well hello! Hope you're all having a relaxing Sunday. While the man in my life is swanning about Italy watching the Grand Prix, I've thrown myself into the following: sugar free cooking, the gym and visiting family. I'm currently on day four of my 'abandonment', but hey whose counting?  

Here's an honest run down of my weekend, shared with you via the medium of tweets that never made it to Twitter!


Work done for the weekend!! Off for tea at the rents! #fridayfeeling

Home from tea at my Mums earlier than usual, avoiding using their saniflo while bathroom is redone!

Busy keeping one eye on Whatsapp for signs of life from the fella.

Waxed my top lip and off to bed. Night all!


Up early and raring to go! Off shopping for sugar free ingredients #Iquitsugar

Morrisons don't sell chia seeds or big packs of arrowroot! #MorereasonstoshopatWaitrose
Food Shopping at Morrisons
Stocked up on Arrowroot in Waitrose but no bloody chia seeds in stock! 

Isn't life wonderful when you're in Waitrose! Despite the chia seeds let down I must shop there more often...(essential range only obviously)

If Holland & Barrett don't stock chia seeds I'm going home and eating a jam swiss roll whole! 

Whatsapp from my fella AND I have chia seeds! Things are looking up. 

When you think you've got a whatsapp from your fella but stop to read it and it's from your friend 

One entire Saturday morning later ... ready to bake...but I'm too annoyed!!  

Off to see the niece and nephew at my sisters! #familytime

Whatsapp from the fella received! #notdumped 

Feeling all mother earth doing sugar free baking on a Saturday night

When you spend all morning looking for ingredients and then this happens...
Homemade Sugar Free Apple Muffins
Burnt pecans anyone? FFS! 

Sat in bed googling 'why did my apple muffins burn' and a daddy long legs attacks #toooldtocry

Up early and worked out

More family time having Sunday dinner with the folks and my Grandma! 

Currently hiding in my flat from my elderly neighbour's community BBQ #notanOAP

That ladies and gentleman is my weekend up to now! The rest of it will be spent trying out a recipe for bread and then mainly dreading Monday.

Life is never really how it seems on social media is it. But lets face it, who'd want an Instagram feed full of snaps of Morrisons, and badly turned out baking? People are bound to only select the highlights of their lives aren't they. Something to remember the next time you're having a bad day and everyone's 'happy as can be snaps' aren't helping! For every batch of delicious muffins you see, there'll be a tray of burnt ones not too far away. 

If anyone is wondering what I did about the daddy long legs, sadly a struggle ensued and it lost two of it's legs. A genuine accident. They're very delicate as it turns out. Like my apple muffins. 

Is there anything more disappointing that when your baking doesn't go to plan? My not so easy on the eye muffins do taste quite nice, after the distinct crunch of the pecans.  I'll give the recipe another go. I can't let a morning scouring for chia seeds be a wasted one can I! 

Thanks so much for reading. Hope you've all had a great weekend. What would be the one honest tweet from your weekend that never made it on to Twitter? 

Don't forget to come and say hello on Twitter here and Instagram here! x x 

*A daddy long legs was harmed in the making of this post.
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